"Goomba38" > wrote in message
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> Edwin Pawlowski wrote:
>> "Goomba38" > wrote in message
>>> The open bar was in another room. The bar tender (owner of a liquor
>>> store that does this service for hire) had a HUGE tip bowl out.
>>> Terribly out of place, and if I were the parents of the bride I would
>>> have been very embarrassed and upset by this tacky bit of extortion.
>>
>> It is done all the time, and, IMO, very tacky. If the bartender is being
>> paid he should etiher be paird a fair wage or tipped by the host, not the
>> guests.
>
> Very much tacky and out of place. I wonder if the hosts were even aware?
> Sure would have nixed any tip they might have felt obliged to give for a
> party well served. I would never expect my guests to tip a bartender for
> drinks if I've hired his services. I'll take care of any tip,
> thankyouverymuch!


Some people love to tip. An expensive trip I took years ago where it said
that all tips were paid/taken care of. It was mentioned over-and-over
during the trip. But at the end of the trip, everyone whispered-whispered
about tipped the guide. They all felt better about themselves giving it to
him. Did I give, too? I don't remember. Maybe yes, maybe no. I liked him
a lot, he was quite entertaining throughout.

Maybe tipping depends on how much the bartender appeals to one, or a guilt
factor, or you just like to do it.
Dee Dee