Dee.Dee wrote:

> Some people love to tip. An expensive trip I took years ago where it said
> that all tips were paid/taken care of. It was mentioned over-and-over
> during the trip. But at the end of the trip, everyone whispered-whispered
> about tipped the guide. They all felt better about themselves giving it to
> him. Did I give, too? I don't remember. Maybe yes, maybe no. I liked him
> a lot, he was quite entertaining throughout.
>
> Maybe tipping depends on how much the bartender appeals to one, or a guilt
> factor, or you just like to do it.
> Dee Dee

Then one can discretely hand a folded up bill to the person as they see
fit and without any public performance. A large tip jar suggests it is
expected and to bypass it makes the guest feel uncomfortable. They do
NOT belong at private functions.