Cindi - HappyMamatoThree wrote:
>
>
> It seems to be the "wave" in weddings. Nice wedding, HUGE FREAKING
> reception. Wedding budget far exceeding that of a nice downpayment on a
> house. I fear I don't understand that kind of overspending for one day. My
> wedding seven years ago was nice, everyone had a good time, and not a single
> pennies worth of debt for the whole day. When you have to take out a loan to
> pay for it all somethings wrong. IMHO anyway.


I was at a nice wedding a few months ago. The service was at 11 am and
there was a sit down lunch at a nice inn. There was a choice of roasted
chicken breast or poached salmon (choice to be sent with the RSVP). They
served salad before the entree and entree was served with a variety of
roated vegetables. It was very good, but quite modest compared to some of
the weddings I have been to or heard about. The bride and groom paid for
it themselves and I am happy for them that they did not go overboard. a
good time was had by one and all.

The last time I was at the dentist I was talking to the dental assistant,
who had also been to that wedding. We both liked the idea that it was
rather humble, but still very nice. Then we talked about this modern idea
that one should buy a wedding gift worth at least as much as the dinner.
She said that was fine when wedding dinners where $20-25 per person, but
now they are in the hundreds per person. Her attitude at her wedding was
that the people there were her guests and they were entertaining them. they
did not expect them to pay for their meals.