"Dave Smith" > wrote in message
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> Cindi - HappyMamatoThree wrote:
>>
>>
>> It seems to be the "wave" in weddings. Nice wedding, HUGE FREAKING
>> reception. Wedding budget far exceeding that of a nice downpayment on a
>> house. I fear I don't understand that kind of overspending for one day.
>> My
>> wedding seven years ago was nice, everyone had a good time, and not a
>> single
>> pennies worth of debt for the whole day. When you have to take out a loan
>> to
>> pay for it all somethings wrong. IMHO anyway.
>
>
> I was at a nice wedding a few months ago. The service was at 11 am and
> there was a sit down lunch at a nice inn. There was a choice of roasted
> chicken breast or poached salmon (choice to be sent with the RSVP). They
> served salad before the entree and entree was served with a variety of
> roated vegetables. It was very good, but quite modest compared to some of
> the weddings I have been to or heard about. The bride and groom paid for
> it themselves and I am happy for them that they did not go overboard. a
> good time was had by one and all.
>
> The last time I was at the dentist I was talking to the dental assistant,
> who had also been to that wedding. We both liked the idea that it was
> rather humble, but still very nice. Then we talked about this modern idea
> that one should buy a wedding gift worth at least as much as the dinner.
> She said that was fine when wedding dinners where $20-25 per person, but
> now they are in the hundreds per person. Her attitude at her wedding was
> that the people there were her guests and they were entertaining them.
> they
> did not expect them to pay for their meals.

Sounds like a nice reception in tune with what the bride and groom and
guests were comfortable. I had heard that gift value recommendation before
of course if dinner is $250 a plate that's a whole host of gifts
unattainable by a lot of weddings guests.

What happened to receptions that were just finger foods and wedding cake
with punch? I don't seem to remember all receptions being sit down dinners
when I was a teen, young married going to lots of weddings for classmates
and friends.

Cindi