On Jan 13, 5:45*pm, Puester > wrote:
> Edwin Pawlowski wrote:
> > "Goomba38" > wrote in message
> >> The open bar was in another room. The bar tender (owner of a liquor store
> >> that does this service for hire) had a HUGE tip bowl out.
>
> Ick.
>
>
>
> > *Over the years, we've all seen
> > people that would only have one drink if they paid for it suddenly have six
> > at an open bar.
>
> Isn't that the sad truth?
>
> >> All in all though, it was still a lovelywedding.
>
> > That is the most important part, often lost in the quest for a fancy
> > impressive reception. *I know a couple that recently divorced and the
> >weddingis not paid for yet.
>
> It's wonderful to see young people with their heads on straight. *My son
> was in aweddingparty last summer of an old friend who is a young,
> $ucce$$ful doctor. *Thewedding, on a yacht in S.F. Bay, cost way more
> than the down payment on an overpriced California house. *She wanted thewedding, he wanted a house. *She won. *She is now pregnant and I suspect
> she will now insist on the house they can't afford right away because he
> is still paying for thewedding. *Is this how divorces are made?
>
> gloria p

Try not to jump to conclusions on a couple's relationship strength
based on how the level of extravangance for their wedding. My husband
and I excitedly chose the extravagant (on our terms) wedding and
reception. Now, while the cost of this wedding could have paid for a
house (and less than 30% of it was paid for by my parents) my husband
and I were so happy with the day, the night and now with the memories
we have (I cannot tell you the number of times we have watched our
video or looked at our pics in the last 2 years!). We talk about it
often, and do not regret a cent we spent one bit!

Neither of us are overflowing with excess cash (other than our
stockpile for the purchase of an apartment) like how it is implied of
the successful doctor, but we work very hard for what we have and
choose to do what we want with our money. We did not have to go into
debt for our wedding, but if we had, it would not be anyone's business
but our own.

I know plenty of people who have had thoughtless and inexpensive
wedding celebrations whose marriages you couldn't pay me to be a part
of. Those who spend $35 at City Hall have to contend with the same
issues of marriage just as much as those who "overspend" on what they
deem a proper celebration.