"cshenk" > ha scritto nel messaggio
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> "ChattyCathy" wrote
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> > The invite says that 'guests are under no obligation to buy any gifts' -
>> but they've registered at *two* home ware stores

> Common if newlyweds. Especially common in Hawaii. They do a money tree
> in > Hawaii as well and you clip money (or checks) to it with paperclips.
>
I don't think it matters where it is being done, it is bad manners. It is
putting the screws on social acquaintances to get gifts and picking the
gifts yourself.

> Again, sorta depends on the background of the folks. With the larger
> items, it's close family who get them or what you do is dontate a portion
> of the cost towards an item.

These are people she has never socialized with before. They should not be
expecting a gift, let alone telling her what to buy.