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> "Goomba" wrote
> We were talking WEDDING showers combined with housewarming.
>
>>> It was the way it was done in the 1800's. Kinda stopped around 1900 or
>>> so.
>>
>> What exactly are you talking about happening here? And can you cite
>
> A wedding, it is traditional even now to register for china and such.
>
>> where you got this information?
>
> History. I find it interesting to know what my grandparents and great
> grandparents were up to.
>
I cannot imagine where this happened. In the USA (and I believe in the UK)
a marriage announcement said who, where and of what familes. The
descriptive "social" pages announcements came way afterward.

>> And are we speaking of people who were barely scraping by or by
>> "society"? Or something in between?
>
> Does it matter? The less monied folks did what they could to emulate the
> more moneied folks. Go look at some old newspapers and you can see the
> wedding announcement often had a list of where they were registered at as
> well.

WHERE? Where did this happen? It certainly did not happen in New England.
I am almost passed out from the idea, imagine how my great grandmother would
have felt!

And yes, it does matter. I think the problem with these overwrought
weddings and brides today is that they think they are entitled to have
everything as the quasi-princess daughter of wealth would have had it. I
would so much rather be invited to something that fit the purse of the
family than an extravaganza with $12,000 dress, $120,000 ceremony and
reception and the couple asking for money to pay for a honeymoon they cannot
afford -- and sometimes even for a down payment on a house!

> You put down 10$ or so towards the goal item. OR you bring a gift, OR
> you do both with a small gift.

With the exception of these execrable honeymoon funds, I have never heard of
that. How the heck do those gift wrap offers jibe with that? I just tried
to order from someone's US registry Thursday, from Williams Sonoma, and
certainly they expected me to pick from a list there.

Oddly, they charge $5 for gift wrap, but since I know the couple live in
Switzerland and the gifts all must be unwrapped to ship them, I thought
someone should have noted that. Anyway, in case anyone is interested, you
cannot buy from abroad at that store, but must call California and order by
voice.