"kilikini" > wrote in message
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> Goomba wrote:
>> Michael "Dog3" wrote:
>>
>>> I never did understand the money tree thing. There is another
>>> custom I don't understand either. The dollar dance. It looks like
>>> the bride is being pimped out for cash. I've seen both of them at
>>> different weddings. Both in the midwest. Maybe it's a midwestern
>>> thang except I've only seen it a couple of times and it's not common
>>> at every midwestern wedding I've attended. People that are too busy
>>> or lazy to shop for a gift <pointing at myself...lazy>, they write a
>>> check. I don't see why I have to flip the bride a $20 bill for a
>>> dance on top of it or tack a bill on the tree. Michael
>>
>> I think it comes from lower socio-economic groups who tried to help
>> poorer couples set up house, not unlike a mutual aid society. Not the
>> same thing as these days where people should be working and self
>> sufficient before marriage. It was survival then, now it is greed.
>> Tacky as hell too.
>
> I lived in Upstate New York for a brief year and saw the Dollar Dance for
> the first time. Hadn't seen it before that time, nor since. I don't know
> what custom it's from, but I think it's tacky, too.

I grew up in PA and saw the dollar dance at many (most?) weddings I attended
in that part of the country. In the 16 years I lived in TX (and attended
*many* weddings), never once did I witness the dollar dance. (I did see a
money tree at one bridal shower down there, though.)

Mary