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On Fri, 13 Jun 2008 14:33:19 -0400, Goomba >
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>cshenk wrote:
>> "Goomba" wrote
>>
>>>> Common if newlyweds. Especially common in Hawaii. They do a money tree
>>>> in Hawaii as well and you clip money (or checks) to it with paperclips.
>>> Thats about as sad and tacky as "Dollar Dances" at weddings. If someone
>>> wants to gift people with money at a celebration, they are welcome to do
>>> it discretely. Slip me an envelope, and lets both get on with the party!

>>
>> Naw, not tacky at all! You'd have to see it to understand. 'Dollar dances'
>> are tacky. Dollar trees are a normal thing there in Hawaii and everyone
>> understands what's up. Saw one couple get almost 30,000$ (very big wedding
>> / housewarming with over 1,000 guests I was told at the end). It probably
>> cost them 10,000$ to hold the party (Luau with 6 roast pit pigs etc).

>
>IMO, I think ANY time money is involved or mentioned in context with a
>party (recouping expenses??) it means the dynamic of the function
>changes and it isn't a party anymore but rather a fund raiser.
>
>If you can't afford to host a party, don't have one. If your friends had
>$10,000. for a luau, that's wonderful. But to then put out a gimmick
>like a "tree" to recover the costs of the party it isn't wonderful
>anymore in my book (nor Emily Post's, Miss Manners, etc.).


It's cultural, Goomba. Don't dismiss what you don't understand.

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