kilikini wrote:

> Goomba wrote:
>
>>Michael "Dog3" wrote:
>>
>>
>>>I never did understand the money tree thing. There is another
>>>custom I don't understand either. The dollar dance. It looks like
>>>the bride is being pimped out for cash. I've seen both of them at
>>>different weddings. Both in the midwest. Maybe it's a midwestern
>>>thang except I've only seen it a couple of times and it's not common
>>>at every midwestern wedding I've attended. People that are too busy
>>>or lazy to shop for a gift <pointing at myself...lazy>, they write a
>>>check. I don't see why I have to flip the bride a $20 bill for a
>>>dance on top of it or tack a bill on the tree. Michael
>>
>>I think it comes from lower socio-economic groups who tried to help
>>poorer couples set up house, not unlike a mutual aid society. Not the
>>same thing as these days where people should be working and self
>>sufficient before marriage. It was survival then, now it is greed.
>>Tacky as hell too.
>
>
> I lived in Upstate New York for a brief year and saw the Dollar Dance for
> the first time. Hadn't seen it before that time, nor since. I don't know
> what custom it's from, but I think it's tacky, too.

The dollar dance is pretty common here in the midwest, at least among
the middle class. The bridal shops even sell little satin bags to put
you money in. I've always thought it's really tacky and wanted nothing
to do with it at my own wedding reception. I made my feeling on the
matter plain to the DJ - NO DAMNED DOLLAR DANCE. I'd dance with anybody
who wanted to dance with me for free.

<Sigh>. Should have just had the damned dollar dance. All evening long
I had guys asking me to dance and because I didn't have the little satin
bag they'd try to stuff bills down my bodice. ARGH!!!