Steve Pope wrote:
> Giusi > wrote:
>
>> "Steve Pope" > ha scritto nel messaggio
>
>>> If the invite doesn't say "no gifts expected", that's a clue
>>> that you should look at Amazon, local department stores, etc. for
>>> wish-lists in the host's name.
>
>>> The "no gifts expected" can avoid confusion if the host is
>>> holding mutliple parties/events in the same time-frame.
>
>> One shouldn't ever have to say that. NO mention of gifts
>> in an invitation, EVER. I presume such a phrase has sometimes
>> been added to overcome the influence of the barbarians who ask,
>> but not one single etiquette resource will back you up on it.
>
> Sure, the correct etiquette is to force persons accepting
> the invitation to make phone calls, ask around, check
> gift registries etc. because it is their job as invitee
> to conduct a detective operation to find out if gifts are
> expected.

That's just silly. Gifts are NEVER mandatory. Never. Otherwise, they're
not gifts.

Serene