On Tue, 17 Jun 2008 11:36:40 -0400, Goomba >
wrote:

>sf wrote:
>
>> $28,000 is starting to look normal to me. DD is just starting to plan
>> her wedding and it's already over $20,000. That's only the reception
>> part. It's still minus minister, dress, tux, DJ, wedding party gifts
>> & flowers.
>>
>It adds up. Sure you can go cheaper, but IMO, you want food, drink and
>surroundings that are special (memorable, top quality) because the event
>is special!

Some people don't feel a wedding is special. 50% fail. Our best
friends got married last week in Mexico. They were gone for a week
and came back with horror stories. After 72 hours of being back
everyone was fighting. Everything changed. It's rather common.

>And I know that I have no problem paying a caterer to
>provide incredible food, generous drinks and *service* that frees me up
>to enjoy the day with family.

IMO, the best way to free yourself up is to stay free and let things
remain a daily choice. I was watching the tube this morning about ***
people getting married in California. I have no idea why they feel
that's so important. Obviously we're straight and could get married
anytime we wanted, but we think our relationship will remain stronger
the way it is. And we've both been married. If someone wants to
spend 28 grand for a party, or if you want to pay for one that's fine.
But calling those who don't buy into the theater "stingy" rather
****es me off.

Just my $.02

Lou