On Tue 17 Jun 2008 12:29:59p, Lou Decruss told us...

> On Tue, 17 Jun 2008 11:36:40 -0400, Goomba >
> wrote:
>
>>sf wrote:
>>
>>> $28,000 is starting to look normal to me. DD is just starting to plan
>>> her wedding and it's already over $20,000. That's only the reception
>>> part. It's still minus minister, dress, tux, DJ, wedding party gifts
>>> & flowers.
>>>
>>It adds up. Sure you can go cheaper, but IMO, you want food, drink and
>>surroundings that are special (memorable, top quality) because the event
>>is special!
>
> Some people don't feel a wedding is special. 50% fail. Our best
> friends got married last week in Mexico. They were gone for a week
> and came back with horror stories. After 72 hours of being back
> everyone was fighting. Everything changed. It's rather common.
>
>>And I know that I have no problem paying a caterer to
>>provide incredible food, generous drinks and *service* that frees me up
>>to enjoy the day with family.
>
> IMO, the best way to free yourself up is to stay free and let things
> remain a daily choice. I was watching the tube this morning about ***
> people getting married in California. I have no idea why they feel
> that's so important. Obviously we're straight and could get married
> anytime we wanted, but we think our relationship will remain stronger
> the way it is. And we've both been married. If someone wants to
> spend 28 grand for a party, or if you want to pay for one that's fine.
> But calling those who don't buy into the theater "stingy" rather
> ****es me off.
>
> Just my $.02
>
> Lou
>

Many *** people have very strong feelings about marriage because it's
something we're not allowed to have. As with many things, those that are
forbidden are the things that are wanted, and that's just from a
psychological perspective. There are other issues here, particular the
unique legal rights of a married couple.

Shortly after David and I became a "couple", we invited friends for a
commitment ceremony presided over by a minister. This was very important
to us. Legal issues were less so, at least at that time. However, both of
the companies we work for recognize domestic partners when it comes to
company benefits and insurance.

It it became "legal" for us to married in the state of Arizona, I know if
we would bother at this point. What would weigh heavily would not be our
emotional investment, but what other gains we might achieve within the
state's legal system.

--
Wayne Boatwright
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