On Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:05:02 -0400, Goomba >
wrote:

>Lou Decruss wrote:
>
>>> It adds up. Sure you can go cheaper, but IMO, you want food, drink and
>>> surroundings that are special (memorable, top quality) because the event
>>> is special!
>>
>> Some people don't feel a wedding is special. 50% fail. Our best
>> friends got married last week in Mexico. They were gone for a week
>> and came back with horror stories. After 72 hours of being back
>> everyone was fighting. Everything changed. It's rather common.
>
>That is sad. And I like to imagine that EVERYONE goes into a marriage
>*hoping* it will last.... and give it the respect and intention that
>such a decision warrants.

I think they'll be ok. At least for now. The dynamics of their
relationship put them at a worse risk than the 50%.

>>> And I know that I have no problem paying a caterer to
>>> provide incredible food, generous drinks and *service* that frees me up
>>> to enjoy the day with family.
>>
>> IMO, the best way to free yourself up is to stay free and let things
>> remain a daily choice. I was watching the tube this morning about ***
>> people getting married in California. I have no idea why they feel
>> that's so important. Obviously we're straight and could get married
>> anytime we wanted, but we think our relationship will remain stronger
>> the way it is. And we've both been married. If someone wants to
>> spend 28 grand for a party, or if you want to pay for one that's fine.
>> But calling those who don't buy into the theater "stingy" rather
>> ****es me off.
>>
>> Just my $.02
>>
>> Lou
>
>No, what I find "stingy" is the attitude that weddings are doomed from
>the start so why waste money on such a "non-event" and that anyone that
>does is silly and frivolous??

Spending 28 grand on a party that so many need to take loans out for
is both silly and frivolous. And a young person who "expects" parents
to pay for it is a greedy idiot.

>I think I "hear" you say that it is
>"smarter" to pay for college instead of a wedding...assuming it has to
>be one or the other?

In the case I spoke of the parents could easily afford both. But
chose not to. I share the feeling if it's going to be $28,000 for a
wedding.

Remember the old saying, Give a person a fish and they will eat or a
day, teach them to fish and they will eat for a lifetime?

If they want that kind of event they can pay for it themselves.

Lou