"Michael "Dog3"" wrote
> "cshenk" in

>> Guilty people sometimes take that out on the ones they 'abused'.
>
> That's an interesting concept I hadn't thought of. The people in your
> case are snubbing you because *they* wronged you and you are not aware of
> it. So they take it out on you yet a second time by snubbing you. It
> makes sense.

Silly but yes, happens. A person who wrongs another then makes 'excuses'
for why it was ok. It doesnt resolve. Read on.

>> We will never know, and have no intention of asking.
>
> Why bother? Life is too short to sweat it IMO.

I agree. Wrote the SIL off an would have hidden the letter so Don didnt
know except he saw it first. Here's a fellow living in Japan who's sister
(a medical doctor married to a medical doctor) is too cheap to call and tell
him his mother died. Gosh, might cost a whole 78 cents a minute.

Excuse me MS Doctor but your MOTHER died and you didnt bother to call your
BROTHER? The more I think of it the more stupid i realize we were to not
call our uncle right away. We made very bad assumptions. We fessed up
right away to the uncle and he's forgiving. Thank the Lord for that. We
didnt 'mean' bad and were just stupid.

>> I'm still upset
>> that she didnt bother to call her uncle that her Mom had died. We had
>> to tell him a year later and are upset at ourselves for 'assuming' he
>> knew so skipping the price of a call from Japan. I felt and still
>> feel horrible about that. Uncle however is vociferous that it was not
>> our fault. Man, it would have been an easy call except he was caught
>> up in Katrina and we didnt have his new phone number yet. We *did*
>> have his address and could have sent a card.
>
> That whole situation is mind boggling to me.

MIL house sold for 175,000$ and our 'percent' at end was 3,214$. Kinda
tells you something when we know it was left evenly to the 2 kids. It costs
more than we had to hire a lawyer and SIL well knew this. Being out of the
country when it happened, well, not possible to persue it.

I'm not a complete idiot. I checked and it would have cost us 50,000$ to
take them to court which was equal to the amount probably we'd get back.
That not counting plane fair to get back and forth as one 'delayed' to wait
us out.

Charlotte's inheritance is now putting one of the kids of the 2 Doctors
through college and Charlotte is looking at military service in 4 years to
match our 100$ a month we are putting aside for her. I am sure my FIL is in
heaven watching on in dismay with his wife, but proud of *us*.

And now? Letters politely written to SIL, just wishing happy holiday
seasons come back.

Want the real kicker? SIL had MIL's dog put to death instead of adopted
out. He was 'too much trouble'. Had we only gotten back a year
earlier..... He was a great dog.