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> ...
>> On 2008-06-21, sf <> wrote:
> I'll prepare something nice and the boss will say " how hungry are
> you mom? " If she ever answered other than "A LITTLE:" you'll have
> to pick me up off the floor.
>
> Cooking for old folks can be a real PITA.
>
> Thank goodness we/she has company quite often so I can do some
> cooking.

>Bless you for your wonderful care.

>Thanks; for your kind words;

I am going to tell a story not 'cause I'm a good guy, I'm not, but some of
you may some day find yourself in need of this information.

A parent has passed on leaving one parent to live alone. Not wanting to
give up their independence they will fight moving out of their place and/or
moving in with you tooth and nail.

The Boss's dad passed away leaving her mom living alone. Sometime after the
funeral, life tried to proceed back to normal

This was our situation - the boss was successor trustee and spent 1 week out
of 4 away taking care of her mothers needs, food, bills, etc. Of course
worrying every minute she was not there, fearful mom would fall, have a
heart attack, stroke, whatever.

It is important to understand when people get older generally they are very
fearful of making the WRONG decision and therefore no decision is usually
the best answer.

We stopped pressing her to move into Grandma's room - a back bedroom with
it's own bath off the kitchen. This was always Grandma's room.

One October, we invited her up for her birthday in late October. After her
birthday we said "why don't you stay till thanksgiving, it's just around the
corner. We said anytime you want we'll run you back down to the house. As
a matter of fact we need to go down and pick up the mail. can we get
anything for you?

Thanksgiving came and we said again' we'll take you back down whenever you
want but Christmas is just around the corner. After Christmas we had New
years and then she said " do you mind if I Buy a smaller bed and a desk for
the room - We had her!

She never made a formal decision to stay - but the result was the same. Now
and then we go down to her place to bring stuff up and or begin preparing
the house for sale - we asked once if she would like to come along and she
declined saying there were too many memories there.

The rest is history.



--
Old Scoundrel

(AKA Dimitri)