I had someone ask me this the other day, so I am now bringing it to you for
your consideration:

You go into a a fairly chi-chi restaurant. You are waited on very well by
many different people. At the end of the meal, you make a generous tip to
either a) the head waiter or the b) maitre'd and indicate that the tip be
spread around accordingly. At a later date, you go to the same restaurant,
the head/maitre'd treats you well, but the rest of the staff treats you as
if you were dirt under their feet. You tip again, the same way as before,
but find out thru the grapevine (aka a friend of one of you kids works
there) that you 'stiffed' the staff twice in a row. The only explaination
is that the head/maitre'd is pocketing the quite sizable tip and telling the
others 'no tip for you'. What would you do?

Discuss among yourselves.

-ginny