On Aug 7, 9:22*am, "jmcquown" > wrote:
> > On Thu, 07 Aug 2008 10:27:59 -0500, Becca >
> > wrote:
>
> > > sf wrote:
> > > > Hubby went into the hospital on Monday and a stent was put in a
> > > > major artery. *He's okay. *He caught it in time, so no heart
> > > > attack or heart damage.
>
> > > How is he feeling?
>
> > He's doing great! *You'd never know it happened. *He's black & blue
> > where they pulled out the catheter, that's it.
>
> > I want to tell the kids. *He doesn't want to worry them. *That is our
> > current topic of discussion. *I think he's really more concerned that
> > the news will leak back to his sisters who *will* worry half to death
> > and bother him constantly.
>
> Regarding not telling the kids: *DO. *Some years ago (10? 15?) my mother had
> surgery to clear a second arterial blockage in her leg. *They didn't tell us
> until afterwards and it ticked me off. *The "we didn't want to worry you"
> argument didn't fly. *If she'd died on the table Dad would have had a hell
> of a time explaining what she was doing in a Charleston hospital nearly 100
> miles from home since they pretended everything was hunky dory. *The best
> way not to worry the kids, IMHO, is to be up front about things. *Treat them
> like the adults they are.
>
> As for his sisters, he should probably tell them mother-henning him will
> only tire him out and slow the recuperation process. *And despite how he
> feels right now, there is definitely a recuperation process.
>
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I totally agree- what if someone dies? Just because you disclose your
problem/illness doesn't make you a cry baby- that is what families do.