"jmcquown" > wrote in message
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> Paul M. Cook > wrote:
>> "jmcquown" > wrote in message
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>> > Paul M. Cook > wrote:
>> > > "jmcquown" > wrote in message
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>> > > > Okay, I can only make so many cheese and bacon & egg dishes. And
>> > > > spinach souffles. And creamed spinach. She'll eat a little
>> > > > macaroni & cheese. Oh, and the toast, ergo grilled cheese
>> > > > sandwiches.
>> > >
>> > > Cook her whatever she wants. If she wants to live on candy and
>> > > ice cream, serve it with a big smile. It can do no harm now. And
>> > > enjoy every day, because they won't last. If you keep
>> > > complaining like this you'll need a therapist to deal with the
>> > > guilt when she passes on.
>> > > BTDT.
>> > >
>> > I'm sorry you had to deal with guilt. I won't feel guilty, I'm just
>> > trying to make sure she eats nutritous food. She gets all the ice
>> > cream she wants LOL And she actually expresses an interest in
>> > living more than another year.
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>> At this point nutrition is not even a consideration. Don't even
>> think of it. Just give her what she wants even if it is a handful of
>> chocolate chips. I don't even want to go into the folly of hospice
>> care workers obsessing over "sodium intake" for a patient that has
>> not a week left to live.
>
> Sorry you had to deal with that but I'm not concerned with her sodium
> intake or her cholesterol, either. Still, I'd like her to eat something
> that isn't just junk. I dealt with that with my father earlier this year
> but he was suffering from severe dementia; she's not.

This is not about you, OK? You don't matter because you are not dying. You
inflicting your needs or wants at this time is wrong. This is not about you
or what you want because that is nothing more than selfish control . Just
let it go. This is all I am saying, if you don't get it you don't get it.
There is simply no way what she eats makes any difference at this point.

Paul