Kathleen wrote:

> cybercat wrote:
> > "Gregory Morrow" > wrote in message
> > m...
> >
> >>Lou Decruss wrote:
> >>
> >>
> >>>On Tue, 30 Dec 2008 13:55:20 -0600, Omelet >
> >>>wrote:
> >>>
> >>>
> >>>>My mom's death nearly destroyed me for 3 years.
> >>>
> >>>GASP! Sounds like you need a real world support group too.
> >>>
> >>
> >>
> >>I've - *we've* - all had parents and loved ones die.
> >
> >
> > All points well taken, but that said, we are each different and work
through
> > things in our own ways. Death of a parent is one of the big ones. I
believe
> > in giving each individual the respect they deserve to grieve in their
own
> > way and for however long it takes.
> >
> > Probably because ... my former best friend and I got close when her
father
> > died when she was 15. It was a bad scene, she never said goodbye, stayed
in
> > denial, never went to the hospital to see him. Her crowd was too
Tragically
> > Hip to allow strong emotion, so I came in handy. When my father died
very
> > suddenly, this same woman told me, when I mentioned on the telephone
that I
> > was still not the same, "it's been a year, don't you think that's long
> > enough to grieve?" Horrendous thing to say, IMO. At the very least, not
> > loving. I was not bending her ear all the time whining, I am not the
type.
> > After that, more and more I noticed that she, much like "Lou" HAS HER
HEAD
> > UP HER ASS.
>
> My sister's best friend from high school went through an ugly divorce
> and moved down to Phoenix to be closer to my sister. She got her life
> turned around, married again, had a baby girl.
>
> And one morning at 6 am my sister got a frantic call from her friend's
> husband. She'd slept on the couch the night before because she had a
> cold and didn't want to keep her husband awake with snoring,
> nose-blowing, etc. when he had to work the next morning. And when he
> got up he found her blue and unresponsive.
>
> He'd already called 911 before he called my sister (an emergency room
> RN), but Sis beat the ambulance there and started CPR even though she
> was quite sure her friend was dead. The EMTs knew her from work and she
> rode along in the ambulance while her friend's husband bundled the baby
> into her car seat and followed behind.
>
> There never was any hope. She'd died in her sleep some time during the
> night of a ruptured aortic aneurism.


You know, that exact scenario happened to a couple I knew, they had
breakfast one mundane morning and then he went to take a shower and she laid
on the couch to watch the _Today_ show. When he returned from the shower
she had died, an aneurism! Just like that...


> My sister was never the same after that. I think the shock and horror
> of trying to breathe life back into her obviously dead best friend while
> her husband and baby screamed and sobbed released a blast of adrenaline
> that fried some of her circuits.


Seeing someone die a traumatic death like that would certainly "fry" me...we
all expect death but not in such a traumatic fashion.


--
Best
Greg