"The Cook" > wrote in message
...
> On Thu, 1 Jan 2009 11:58:32 -0800, "SteveB" <toquerville@zionvistas>
> wrote:
>
>>They WILL run without being empty. But SOME PEOPLE insist (to the point
>>of
>>footstomping and sign making "dirty/clean") that the dishwasher MUST be
>>full
>>to run? That means by the time it IS run, I'm out of my insulated coffee
>>cups, most dinner plates, and almost all the important pots.
>>
>>AND DON'T DARE TOUCH THAT DIAL AND RUN IT HALF FULL. You might as well
>>mess
>>with her makeup.
>>
>>Please explain if you know the answer.
>>
>>Steve
>>
>
>
> Someone in the household seems to have a control problem and I am not
> sure who it is. You did say that you had had attention problems. Your
> wife and MIL are probably not sure that you are really aware of
> everything. I admit that if I leave the kitchen I may not remember
> that something there needs attention especially if I start reading a
> book or doing something on the computer. Maybe not ready to burn the
> house down, but the bread that I put on the counter is coming out of
> the bowl. Now my husband will ask does "whatever" need attention or
> should I turn the burner down? I sometimes tell him that his pot of
> soup is about to boil over. That is why I wear the time around my
> neck.
>
> As far as the dishwasher is concerned, it is my job to load and start
> it, my husband unloads it. If someone needs or wants something that
> is in the dishwasher but not clean or in the sink, my answer is take
> it out and wash it by hand. If you don't want to do that, find
> something else to use. I find it hard to believe that someone can
> prepare 3 meals a day for 3 people and not have a full load of dishes
> each day. I you can do that, I want to know what kind of dishwasher
> you have. If you can't do that, buy more dishes and cookware.
>
> --
> Susan N.

On Oct. 20, 2004, I suffered a traumatic brain injury. Things were bad for
a couple of years, but now I'm much better, even to the point of having to
relearn thing, such as people's names. I do have residual symptoms and
limitations. During some of that time, I was a danger. But now, it's like
I'm a young adult who has to tell Mom that I'm not a kid any longer.

Our schedule vacillates wildly around business and travel. At times when we
are home, yes, the dishwasher gets run very often. On the other hand, when
we are sporadic, what's the sense of leaving dirty dishes in there for a
week when she won't leave a dirty glass on the counter top overnight?

I have a good life and a good wife. Sometimes, though, I get puzzled.

Steve