In article > ,
Dave Smith > wrote:

> Lou Decruss wrote:
>
> > You're supposed to move on and get your own life when you can support
> > yourself. Most people gather friends and wisdom over time and aren't
> > so dependent on their parents that they are "destroyed" for 3 years.
> > My parents are both alive but older. When they die they can be PROUD
> > that I'm not financially or emotionally dependent on either of them.
>
> Having lost both my parents

> I should add that I am talking about aged parents.

My mother died when I was 22. She wasn't that old, but I had moved out
long ago, at 18 to go to college, and a few months before she died for
good. I was married. I think it was much harder for my brother. He
was still in high school and still living at home when she died. He was
no where close to marriage and a family of his own.


> I just can't imagine what it would be
> like to lose a child.

It ain't a pretty picture.

sf mentioned something that I think is important. It depends on the
circumstances. I think both of you (Lou and Dave) have children. It's
a lot different when your parents die and you have children. You can
see that things are continuing. It's that old cycle of life, you are
born and you die. But your children live on. For those whose parents
die when they have no children and aren't likely to have children, I
think it is a lot harder.

--
Dan Abel
Petaluma, California USA