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Dan Abel > wrote:

> In article > ,
> Dave Smith > wrote:
>
> > Lou Decruss wrote:
> >
> > > You're supposed to move on and get your own life when you can support
> > > yourself. Most people gather friends and wisdom over time and aren't
> > > so dependent on their parents that they are "destroyed" for 3 years.
> > > My parents are both alive but older. When they die they can be PROUD
> > > that I'm not financially or emotionally dependent on either of them.
> >
> > Having lost both my parents
>
> > I should add that I am talking about aged parents.
>
> My mother died when I was 22. She wasn't that old, but I had moved out
> long ago, at 18 to go to college, and a few months before she died for
> good. I was married. I think it was much harder for my brother. He
> was still in high school and still living at home when she died. He was
> no where close to marriage and a family of his own.
>
>
> > I just can't imagine what it would be
> > like to lose a child.
>
> It ain't a pretty picture.
>
> sf mentioned something that I think is important. It depends on the
> circumstances. I think both of you (Lou and Dave) have children. It's
> a lot different when your parents die and you have children. You can
> see that things are continuing. It's that old cycle of life, you are
> born and you die. But your children live on. For those whose parents
> die when they have no children and aren't likely to have children, I
> think it is a lot harder.

I have no children, no husband. I live vicariously thru my sister.
I have two beloved nephews and that helps. :-) I'm so very glad that
they moved back here into town from Arizona...
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