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Dave Smith > wrote:

> I am not going to get into a big argument over it with them now, but I
> won't be making any more group visits. They can show their respects
> anyway they want, but they won't be telling me what is appropriate and
> what isn't.

Good grief Dave! And I thought _I_ had issues!

As for graves, dad's parents ashes are here in the house, still in their
boxes from the funeral parlor. I need to get over to Hobby Lobby and
get him a trunk for them.

Mom's ashes are here in my bedroom in a brass bound memory trunk. The
trunk also contains a small collection of her favorite things, and the
sympathy cards, which I will eventually burn...

My two sister's graves are in Colorado. They don't get visited often...

I like cremation. It's tidier and easier to deal with, and a lot less
expensive. I see no point in spending thousands on someone once they
are dead.
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Peace! Om

"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive." -- Dalai Lama