In article >,
Nina > wrote:

> On 04 Jan 2009 21:18:43 GMT, "Michael \"Dog3\""
> > wrote:
>
> >Nina >
> : in rec.food.cooking
> >
> >>
> >> Sometimes grief is fresh.
> >>
> >> It doesn't have a timetable, and one of the things that (IMO, anyway)
> >> is worst about our society is the need to "get over it", to be done
> >> with grief because it makes other people uncomfortable.
> >>
> >> Some people need memorials and things on which to focus the grief. To
> >> keep some aspect of that person from being forgotten. I don't have a
> >> problem with that.
> >
> >I don't have a problem with it. I just don't understand it. For me it
> >would be keeping the wound open (for lack of a better phrase) instead of
> >letting it heal. That's just me though.
>
> I think... I don't know, and I know this is really off-topic, but it's
> something I'm right in the middle of at the moment, so it's close to
> my heart... that there's a point in grief where healing seems like
> forgetting, and that seems like something far worse than just enduring
> the pain.
>
> I am kind of hoping that there's some point where that no longer feels
> like the right thing to do, though.
>
> Nina

If you ever totally "get over it", imho you never cared in the first
place. Just MHO.

Learning to simply cope, to me, is the key.

Value the memories. :-)
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Peace! Om

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