On Fri, 10 Apr 2009 14:48:20 -0400, "Jean B." > wrote:

>Well, if someone detests it, I imagine that is relevant to the
>question. I am wondering how much time there was between the
>question being asked and the dinner. It seems odd to me that the
>hostess has such a set idea of the ONE thing she really wanted to
>make BEFORE she asked her invitees about their preferences.

What's the old mind game? Tell someone *not* to think about something
and that's all they can think about. You're saying she shouldn't have
something in mind to tell the potential guest who instead asks "What's
on the menu"? Some people have avoided certain things for so long
they don't even remember they exist. If I didn't like pickles and
hadn't eaten them in 20 years, I wouldn't necessarily remember to say
I didn't like them.

>And her bringing it up like that was extremely insensitive and rude.

Insensitive, for sure. But I'm agreeing more and more with the person
who said it was probably her idea of a joke. She could have thought
she was giving Tammy a "gentle" ribbing... except she didn't have a
stop button and mortified Tammy rather than make her laugh too. I'm
seeing it happen between two of my friends now. One doesn't have a
stop button and the other one is fed up.

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I love cooking with wine.
Sometimes I even put it in the food.