In article >,
"Giusi" > wrote:

> "Omelet" ha scritto nel messaggio
> > Goomba wrote:
> >
> >> Omelet wrote:
> >>
> >> > <lol> If I am serving some specific dinner guests, I'll happily discuss
> >> > > the menu with them (usually via e-mail) prior to their visit, and
> >> > cook according to their wishes.
> >>
> >> At what point in that process are you the hostess rather than just a cook
> >> at the home-restaurant they agreed to eat at that night??
> >> Do you let them dictate the entire menu, dining hour, drinks and dessert?
> >
> > Why not? I'm serving THEM, not me!
>
> Om, that's not how entertaining generally works. Hosts generally make what
> they want, what they can afford, what interests them and what they are
> capable of cooking. Other than life threatening allergies, guests don't
> really have a say in menus.

I find Om's way of doing this refreshing. I wouldn't necessarily do it
this way myself, but I like reading about it. Up until now, we are
talking mostly about social events. I understand that it's a job for
you, at least some of the time, and that's different.

> As I read this thread I imagined someone from here getting invited to the
> White House and trying to tell Michelle Obama what to serve them and what
> they didn't like.

We're stretching the word "social" here, now. You can bet that if a
very important visitor came to the White House for a meal, and their
religion, a primary one in their country, held some animal to be sacred
and not to be used for food, that meat from that animal would not be
served.

--
Dan Abel
Petaluma, California USA

"[Don't] assume that someone is "broken" just because they behave in ways
you don't like or don't understand." --Miche