"Vic Smith" > wrote in message
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> On Sat, 16 May 2009 22:36:07 GMT, "brooklyn1"
> > wrote:
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>>> Those are common traits among those that lived during the Depression and
>>> the World Wars when every tiny thing counted.
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>>Exactly. It took you most of your life before treating yourself to a
>>stove
>>you really wanted, and according to your posts you still agonized over the
>>decision. Perhaps you still have buyers remorse, not because the stove
>>isn't worth it, but because you are still not comfortable with whether you
>>are worth it. It's not easy to give up old taboos... many times I wonder
>>whether my parents would approve of my decisions. Anyone who tells me
>>they
>>don't consider their parent's approval, even about how much toothpaste
>>they
>>put on their toothbrush, is either a liar or a criminal. Every normal
>>person lives their entire life considering parental approval regarding all
>>the minutia of their life.
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> What about orphans?
> Besides that, many have serious disagreements with parents, admit to
> it, and are not criminal. There are plenty of bad parents who should
> not be emulated, approved of, or given much consideration at all when
> their children make their own decisions.
> You sound like some Freudian tract here.
> Not to say you didn't have fine parents, and have legitimate cause to
> feel as you do.
> One size does not fit all.
>
>

Even orphans have authority figures who raised them... are you trying to say
you were raised by wolves or apes, or are you a psychopath? The more awful
the parent the harder children work at approval issues. "Good" parents
shadow a child its entire life. A "bad" parent haunts a child its entire
life. Contrary to what many may believe it's the 'bad' parent who has the
greater influence.