brooklyn1 wrote:
> "Vic Smith" > wrote in message
> ...
>> On Sat, 16 May 2009 22:36:07 GMT, "brooklyn1"
>> > wrote:
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>>>> Those are common traits among those that lived during the
>>>> Depression and the World Wars when every tiny thing counted.
>>>
>>> Exactly. It took you most of your life before treating yourself to
>>> a stove
>>> you really wanted, and according to your posts you still agonized
>>> over the decision. Perhaps you still have buyers remorse, not
>>> because the stove isn't worth it, but because you are still not
>>> comfortable with whether you are worth it. It's not easy to give
>>> up old taboos... many times I wonder whether my parents would
>>> approve of my decisions. Anyone who tells me they
>>> don't consider their parent's approval, even about how much
>>> toothpaste they
>>> put on their toothbrush, is either a liar or a criminal. Every
>>> normal person lives their entire life considering parental approval
>>> regarding all the minutia of their life.
>>>
>> What about orphans?
>> Besides that, many have serious disagreements with parents, admit to
>> it, and are not criminal. There are plenty of bad parents who should
>> not be emulated, approved of, or given much consideration at all when
>> their children make their own decisions.
>> You sound like some Freudian tract here.
>> Not to say you didn't have fine parents, and have legitimate cause to
>> feel as you do.
>> One size does not fit all.

> Even orphans have authority figures who raised them...

Wrong. Those that never got out of institutions until they were adults didnt.

> are you trying to say you were raised by wolves or apes, or are you a psychopath?

He's succeeding in rubbing your nose in the stupidity of your claim.

> The more awful the parent the harder children work at approval issues.

Wrong again. Plenty of kids realise how bad the bad parents are and just reject their value.

Even if that parent is just hopeless at getting a decent job etc.

> "Good" parents shadow a child its entire life.

Mindlessly silly. Good parents realise that what its about is
getting the child into a situation where it can look after itself.

Because it will have to do that eventually when the parents are dead.

> A "bad" parent haunts a child its entire life.

Utterly mangled all over again. Plenty of people have enough of a clue
to be able to see the deficiencys that bad parents have. With the worst
parents, plenty of kids with a clue just have nothing to do with them at all.

> Contrary to what many may believe it's the 'bad' parent who has the greater influence.

Presumably you actually are that stupid.