Ranee at Arabian Knits wrote:

>
>> Agreed... and help (don't just offer to help) with all the
>> preparations, for gosh sake. You're going to be one of the family, so
>> don't park your butt on the sofa and act like a guest.
>
> We give jobs to people who are close and aren't doing anything. ;-)

My mother used to host most of the big holiday dinners. My father,
brothers, my wife and I, and two sisters in law always helped out. The
previously mentioned sister in law sat on her duff.