sf wrote:

> Agreed... and help (don't just offer to help) with all the
> preparations, for gosh sake. You're going to be one of the family, so
> don't park your butt on the sofa and act like a guest.

I tried that with my MiL before we were married, and after. She was
capable of putting on a pretty good spread, but she got frazzled in the
kitchen. She did not want me in there. She would get my wife to help.
Being a 1910 vintage, she thought men should be out in the parlour or
sitting in the dining room, not in the kitchen. She didn't much like
women helping her either.