After years of being on her own, SD moved from the house we had bought
for her and her daughter back in with us 18 months ago saying she would
spending the bulk of her time with her boyfriend in New York. That
didn't happen. She didn't like it and was back here inside of a week.
Also she brought her two dogs which gave, and still gives, our cats
conniptions.

Over the course of the 18 months, she caused me to incur 1000$ in debt to
cover her *urgent* expenses (car registration, cellphone bills) on a
promise of immediate repayment but which were reimbursed only when the
boyfriend covered them recently.

She completely wrecked a good omelette pan I had by leaving it on the
heat so the non-stick coating burned off, and yesterday she wrecked my
pizza stone by a) putting a frozen pizza on the stone in a cold oven and
turning the heat on, causing the stuff to bake onto the surface, and b)
by taking the stone out with the pizza on it and cutting the pizza on the
stone with a serrated edge knife, causing deep gouges in the surface. Of
course, my wife thinks that you use a pair of kitchen scissors to cut a
pizza so there's no surprise there.

This is just the tip of it. There are other constantly recurring
annoyances, like heating burritos in the microwave at 2AM which causes
the entire house to smell of food, leaving doors unlocked all night after
she goes out for a cigarette, letting the cats out after dark, clomping
around the house in what I can only assume are army boots (if they come
in high heels...we don't have carpets because of allergies) at all hours
of the day or night, and monopolizing the bathroom for 45 minutes every
weekday morning. I have asked her to set a time, she does and I try to
work around it, but then she changes it without warning...and of course,
it's my fault :-|

And she makes rules...like I have to have supper ready at 5h45 on Sundays
so the granddaughter can be home at her father's by 7. I won't go into
the rest of them but there is one thing she seems to ignore. She is not
paying rent, largely because she was without income for a long time. We
didn't put any pressure on her to pony up a part of the rent, but I'm
tempted to present her with a bill when she leaves. At least she bought
the bulk of her own food.

So she is moving back into the house we bought for her and her daughter
to live in (the BF is guaranteeing the rent and he is good for it) and
she will be taking in roommates. Also, the BF will be back up from New
York permanently in September.

If you think (for some godsforsaken reason) that I'm being unfair to her,
let me just say that my wife is also looking forward to the day we get
our house back.

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"The officer corps will forgive anything they can
understand, which makes intelligence the only sin."

Carnell, Blakes 7 episode 16