Dave Smith wrote:
> Michel Boucher wrote:
>
>> If you think (for some godsforsaken reason) that I'm being unfair to
>> her, let me just say that my wife is also looking forward to the day
>> we get our house back.
>>
>
> I wish my brother had your balls. He recently retired and now has his
> daughter moving back in until she can get the paperwork to live in the
> US with her (American) husband. He just can't seem to get all his kids
> to become independent and get the empty nest that he wants.


> Next week my brother has to fly down to NC to drive his daughter back.

> She has had 6 months to learn
> how to drive a standard but has not. So he has to fly down there to
> driver her and the car back.

> She does not have a job, and knowing here, probably won't get one.
>

See, a lot of the problem is that your brother thinks he HAS to do stuff
to bail out his kids but he hasn't instilled in them that THEY have to
do stuff to survive. Why couldn't he insist that daughter learn to
drive a standard shift car or do without? That doesn't seem like it
should be HIS problem. Also, why doesn't she and her husband solve her
immigration problems? There doesn't seem to be much Dad can do about
that, it's THEIR problem.

What will that generation do when we are too old or dead to bail them
out? And how will they raise their kids to be responsible if they look
to Grandpa and Grandma for a solution every time they are in hot water?

gloria p