Krypsis > wrote in news:4ba7861a$0$1785$afc38c87
@news.optusnet.com.au:

> Children need to strike out on their own.

Where is that written in stone?

Some family models work by never actually losing members but just gaining
new ones. Other family models, at the other end of the spectrum, posit
exclusion from the parents as early as 3 years old. Even within the
"W.A.S.P." domain, there are many varieties: urban, rural, nomadic,
conservative, progressive...

I daresay your statement quoted above is hardly universal, or even
uniformly applied even within your immediate vicinity. Perhaps it would be
better for you to preface it with: I believe that... Then you would know
that it is not a universal constant but a personal preference.

Because it is after all a question of belief (and faith) that treating
people harshly will benefit them in the end. Rod...child...see a pattern
here? Only those obnubilated by their irrational belief in the non-
existence of a deity could take that model as a serious one. Mark Twain
pointed out that if a father did to his children what "God" is said to have
inflicted upon humanity, he would be jailed as a heinous criminal.

But I can see where belief in the validity of this model would be the case
if all the people in the world were normal, but unfortunately for your
weltanschauung, not everyone is like you. Some people are in need of
greater support than others.

That doesn't mean it's easy on those giving that support.

--

"The officer corps will forgive anything they can
understand, which makes intelligence the only sin."

Carnell, Blakes 7 episode 16