On 23/03/2010 3:50 AM, George wrote:
> On 3/22/2010 10:46 AM, Steve B wrote:
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>>
>> I left home two days before I turned sixteen. I agree with most of
>> what you
>> said except for the tough love part. I think that should start from day
>> one. Why is it that parents will let their child go splat face first into
>> the kitchen floor when learning to walk? "Get up, you're okay." Then when
>> they're 25, they won't let them so much as stumble?
>>
>> I have three kids. One is a police officer. One is an industrial HR
>> psychologist. The other is an interpreter for the court system in a state
>> government. Only one daughter lived at home during two years of her
>> college, and paid rent. During that time, she was basically a maid for
>> the
>> household as her job. Cooking, cleaning, ironing, washing the dog, the
>> car,
>> whatever. I have six grandkids, and they all love to come to Papa's
>> house.
>> Because I treat them as young adults. No baby talking. No back talking.
>> No down talking. None of them gets to run roughshod and do what they
>> want.
>> And if they get a booboo, they get some sympathy, a band aid, and
>> diverted
>> to the next thing. That included shiners, cuts, stitches, and one broken
>> finger. I think they will all do good, too. They all learned at a young
>> age that all they needed to do was look inside themselves instead of to
>> Mommy and Daddy.
>>
>> Steve
>>
>>
> But that is really mean enforcing rules and stuff..
>
> What about their self esteem? I'll bet they don't like you... I'll bet
> they will turn out as clueless and demanding kids...oh wait...

Life is full of rules, both written and tacit. Get used to it!

Krypsis