"gloria.p" wrote:
>Nancy Young wrote:
>> Ed Pawlowski wrote:
>>> "sf" wrote in
>>>>
>>>> I've never understood the concept of taking out a loan to finance a
>>>> wedding.
>>>
>>> The son of a friend of mine did. The loan terms were a year longer
>>> than the marriage lasted too.
>>
>> I think sometimes parents feel embarrassed if they can't throw the
>> wedding of their daughter's dreams so they make it look
>> like they can.
>> nancy
>
>
>These days an expensive wedding is one of the worst investments a parent
>can make. Spending a fortune (when you don't have one) for the prestige
>is pretty lame.
>
>They are just as married in a small, simple, close family and best
>friends wedding as they are with 500 guests and doves flying.


If one has the economic wherewithall and can *easily* afford it why
not, but going into debt at any level and/or foregoing necessities for
any party is lunacy. And not only can I understand but I support not
using the cash as a down payment on a house, many young couples are
not homeowner material, and/or have no idea where they will live month
to month or that they will even be a couple, but a new automobile to
ones child (the other parents can buy their kid whatever) is a far
better gift than a stupid party just to impress... no one will be
impressed anyway (at best anything nicer than theirs will be
resented). Me, for my kid I'd make some long term investment in her
name... in fact I did exactly that, I bought a gorgeous 91 acres and
placed it in her name and mine with right of survivorship. I pay the
taxes and manage it, one day it will put my grands through college
with plenty left over. I would never pay big bucks to entertain a
herd of people I don't know and who don't know me... and I'm certainly
not about to support any fercocktah caterer... and I'm definitely not
making any investment in my kid's spouse who she really doesn't know
and I certainly don't know who at any time may not be my kid's spouse.
I'm very sorry but in this day and age of equal-equal I don't think
one set of parents has all the onus of the wedding reception... has to
be equal-equal or nothing.