Omelet wrote:

> Unless said "guests" pony'ed up for the bill. That's becoming a common
> theme too. Paying for your plate at the reception.
>
> Submit a check with your acceptance notice. <g>

Tacky, tacky, tacky. About as tacky as pot luck reception, IMO.

If you can't afford to host a big reception, you should host one you
*can* afford. Cake and punch with plentiful well wishes is all that is
necessary and can be done quite tastefully.
Weddings are also family reunions, college chum reunions and
occasionally business pay-back events. Some families are celebrating a
happy event with all their friends and neighbors and aren't putting a
dollar value on it. As long as a couple and their family can afford it,
more power to 'em, I say!