"Ranée at Arabian Knits" > wrote in message
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> In article
> >,
> Cindy Hamilton > wrote:
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>> On Jun 1, 11:32 am, Dave Smith > wrote:
>> > brooklyn1 wrote:
>> > > No pot luck, no pot lucks ever, not for any reason whatsoever.
>> >
>> > You invite people to come and share your celebration, not to cater it.
>> > You should not expect people to get all gussied up, perhaps drive al
>> > ong
>> > way, bring a present and then to BYOB and food. That's not just tacky.
>> > It's downright cheap. There may be circumstances that would excuse it,
>> > but I sure wouldn't advise it.
>>
>> I had a partial potluck wedding. We provided a whole roast pig
>> (cooked
>> by DH's brothers), and asked people to bring side dishes. We also
>> bought the beer and wine. Instead of a cake, we had fresh
>> strawberries.
>> (That reminds me, my 21st wedding anniversary is in two days.)
>
> I don't have a problem with a community (be it the church or family
> or whatever) pulling together and everyone contributing something to
> make the wedding meal, but I do have a hard time with the idea of a
> potluck wedding where guests are asked to bring something. Not because
> they are supposed to bring a gift, strictly speaking, they are not
> required to do so, and not because it is a fancy wedding, because it
> might not be, but because guests are asked to come share the joy of the
> couple, not work for them. Same reason that bridezillas who shriek
> about how they paid so much for the dinner, so such and such a guest was
> a cheapskate for only spending $50 on the gift are so tacky. People
> aren't supposed to go to weddings for a financial or commercial
> exchange. The poor friend who can't afford an expensive gift should be
> just as welcome as the wealthy friend who buys the entire crystal set.
> Neither of them should be expected to pay their way in to the
> festivities.

Agreed!

We (the women's group in our Church) often prepare wedding buffets for our
members.

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