Omelet wrote:
The
> knife and spoon are placed on the folded napkin.

No, not traditionally at all. One should not have to pick through the
silverware to get to the napkin. If your mother taught you that it was
only because she didn't know better or chose to make up some new rules.
>
> Most restaurants roll the flatware into a napkin and set it to the right
> of the plate.

Not fine restaurants, but casual bar type places like Chili's.