"ravenlynne" > wrote in message
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> On 11/23/2010 10:15 AM, Lenona wrote:
>> This is a new column.
>>
>> http://www.buffalonews.com/life/colu...icle262608.ece
>>
>> Dear Miss Manners: Is it rude to bring your own stuffing because
>> you don’t like what the host is serving? (The “host” is my daughter,
>> and my boyfriend is the stuffing hater.)
>>
>> Gentle Reader: Since this is a family dinner, there is a polite way
>> for him to bring stuffing that he likes. All he has to do, Miss
>> Manners begs you to inform him, is to obtain your daughter’s
>> permission beforehand to bring it nicely packed inside of a freshly
>> cooked turkey.
>>
>>
>> (end)
>>
>> I don't understand MM's response. What's so terrible about bringing
>> extra stuffing without a turkey to go with it? In MY experience,
>> stuffing is something people often like MORE than the turkey - and
>> since, in my extended family, Thanksgiving dinner is always at the
>> same house, it would be wrong, in our opinions, for each of us NOT to
>> bring part of the meal - or an "extra" pie, stuffing or vegetable
>> dish. So all you'd have to do is bring a generous amount in case
>> everyone else prefers your stuffing too.
>>
>> But I do like MM's response to the next letter. Even though it
>> surprised me a bit.
>>
>> Lenona.
>
> I wouldn't do it. They're welcoming you into their home for a dinner that
> they are cooking you. You don't like it? Don't go. I'm surprised that
> the letter writer isn't more concerned about her daughter's feeling than
> her boyfriends. I think it's rude to bring your own because you don't like
> theirs.
>
It's pretty easy to pass the bowl along without spooning up anything you
don't like. You don't have to make excuses. Nor should you bring anything
other than a bottle of wine or maybe a loaf of bread or some other hostess
gift. Certainly not "I like my stuffing better".

I never feel obligated to eat everything that is offered to me. I may be a
guest but I'm not a prisoner

Jill