Lenona wrote:
> On Feb 14, 12:19 pm, "Nancy Young" >
> wrote:
>
>> Boy, women must be lining up to date a charmer like him. If you are
>> going to begrudge taking me out for dinner, don't ask me. It's that
>> simple. I am not someone who feels comfortable not paying my
>> way, and I have insulted guys by offering to chip in for the check,
>> but if we're on our first date and you're looking hard at me to see
>> how I act when the bill comes, I'd rather stay home. We have no
>> long term prospects anyway, because that kind of attitude isn't
>> for me.
>
>
> Yes, well, as I implied, chances are he's under the impression that,
> even if you do the (vague) inviting, it's ALWAYS supposed to be a
> Dutch date unless you say, early on, that it isn't. A lot of
> "hosts,"
> both male and female, mistakenly make that assumption.
>
> Of course, if she's the one who made the suggestion that they go out
> to eat but now is acting as though he should pay for ALL of it,
> that's
> clearly a lot worse.
>
> Another thing to wonder about is: If she's such a take-charge,
> braggart type as he describes, how hard would it have been for her
> to
> ask, early on, whether he was treating her or not?
>
> Lenona.

I'm with Nancy all the way on this one. If I were on a first date and
was invited to dinner, I would expect him to pay. If I knew the
person well strictly as a friend, I'd have no hesitation in saying,
"Fine but let's go Dutch". If he'd taken me out quite a few times,
I'd say (and have said), "This is my treat".
That way, I can keep my independence and live with myself.

Dora