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Miss Manners on dining out: "Who should get the check?"
jmcquown wrote:
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> "itsjoannotjoann" > wrote in message
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>> On Feb 13, 3:22 pm, Lenona > wrote:
>>> Found this.
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>>> Lenona.
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>>> http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationshi...documentid=276...
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>>> Dear Miss Manners,
>>> Who should get the check? My question is in regards to the etiquette
>>> of getting the check at the end of the meal. I was raised that if it
>>> was not made very clear at the beginning (such as "don't worry we are
>>> taking you out"), to always make an effort to pay. My parents taught
>>> me it is polite to put up a little "argument over it," and I have
>>> always tried to do this when I have the opportunity; whether it is
>>> simply paying for myself or picking up the entire check.
>>>
>>> My husband believes if you are out with someone a little more well off
>>> you should simply take their offer, no argument.
>>>
> (How would you know if you're out with someone a little more well off?)
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> I agree with Ed. If I invite you, it's my treat. If you invite me, I
> expect you to pay. But the ground rules really should be set down in
> advance. For example, I took care of my neighbor's cats when she was
> gone for two weeks. When she got back she said, "Let me take you to
> lunch." That's clear-cut, well defined. She paid for lunch. When she
> drove me and my cat to Charleston so my cat could undergo a medical
> procedure I made it clear I was paying for the gas AND taking her to
> lunch. Again, clear-cut.
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> As for parents paying for adult children's meals or vice versa, we
> weren't really a go out to dinner family. But I don't recall my
> parents ever turning down one of us offering to pay the check.
>
> Jill
Did your POS car finally bite the dust?
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