In article >,
says...
>
> "Ed Pawlowski" > wrote in message
> ...
> > ?
> > "Lenona" > wrote
> >> http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationshi...entid=27656377
> >>
> >> Dear Miss Manners,
> >> Who should get the check? My question is in regards to the etiquette
> >> of getting the check at the end of the meal. I was raised that if it
> >> was not made very clear at the beginning (such as "don't worry we are
> >> taking you out"), to always make an effort to pay.
> >
> >> Gentle Reader,
> >> Yes, sometimes even parents. The long habit of paying for their
> >> children often remains; many parents prefer to continue to do so and
> >> will make sure they win any such polite arguments as you mention. But
> >> even they will be flattered if you occasionally make a point of
> >> issuing a clear invitation at which you are the hosts -- at a place
> >> that you can afford.
> >
> > If I invite you as my guest, I pay
> > If you invite me as your guest, you pay
> > If friends say "do you want to go out to eat", we split it
> >
> > As for paying for (adult) children, it pretty much applies the same way
> > but can change with their finances. My son always pays though (his
> > choice) and can easily afford it.
> >
> >
> >
>
> And if it is a date and he 'lets' you see what he is paying-he wants
> something more than just dinner.

If it is a date take it as a given that he wants something more than
dinner.