On 02/08/2011 4:57 AM, Giusi wrote:
> "Ranée at Arabian > ha scritto nel messaggio
>
>> Maybe you should have chosen better, then.
>
> It's a generational thing, in large part. I do have men friends who do ALL
> the cooking or help a great deal, and I have others who take turns. My
> generation had the women doing everything. We women allowed that, even in
> some cases encouraged it.


It wasn't really a matter of women doing "everything". It was more a
matter of division of labour. Women did things like cooking and
cleaning. Painting, repairs, lawn mowing etc. Most women stayed home
and were home makers. Their husbands went to work and made enough money
to support a family.... hopefully.



Bear in mind that before the days of vacuum cleaners, automatic washing
machines and other labour saving devices, it was a lot of work to to
laundry. You had to be there most of the time while the machine was
running. You had put the items through the wringer to squeeze out the
water. With modern washers you just put everything in the machine, add
the detergent, push a couple buttons and come back in an hour.

> It eventually ruined marriage for me and I have been single for decades now.
> It's clearly not because I am too lazy to cook or clean, but more that
> unless I found someone 30 years younger than I, his opinion would count
> heavier than mine in his mind.

I have always done as much or more around the house than my wife has. I
used to do almost all the cooking and when I was on a compressed work
week with every Friday off I used to spend most of the day house cleaning.