On Dec 8, 8:38*am, John Kuthe > wrote:
> On Dec 8, 8:04*am, Kalmia > wrote:
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> > On Dec 7, 6:22*pm, Bryan > wrote:
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> > > People are taking turns bringing over dinner to be helpful while Betsy
> > > recovers. *My sister was bringing lasagna, and announced beforehand
> > > that she was making a separate one for me w/o noodles. *When she
> > > arrived, she announced that she has used spaghetti squash instead of
> > > the noodles. *Why the F--k hadn't she just left out the noodles and
> > > not put in goddamned SQUASH. *I told her that I wouldn't eat such a
> > > thing. *It's OK anyway, since I had already had a big lunch, 3 duck
> > > wings and some of my wife's cashew chicken. *The cashew chicken had
> > > cornstarch in it, so by my rules I had to go to the gym and do one set
> > > of at least 10 reps on all 18 machines, with enough weight that it
> > > hurt. *I figure if I eat too much carb, I burn it off right away
> > > before my body gets a chance to know it's there. *Kinda like feeding a
> > > stray dog, in that I don't want my body to start expecting excess
> > > glucose. *I still have 3 more duck wings left.
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> > > --Bryan
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> > It was kind of her to bring something - couldn't you just let it go at
> > that?
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> Bryan is a social oaf, as am I often. I think those who know and love
> Bryan take that into account and cut him slack. I know it took me a
> long time to learn this about him, and I often forget and find myself
> in positions to "get my feelings hurt" when he apparently demonstrates
> no concern for my feelings. I've learned to remind myself though, and
> I'm an adult and can take care of my own feelings.

I'm also not an oaf, as I know *how* to emulate social niceties, and
am
quite good at it *when I am on someone else's time*.
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> It's not that Bryan *doesn't* care about others' feelings, it's that
> he cares a lot more about his own (and we ALL do!) and forgets to show
> "sufficient" concern for anyone else's feelings often. I know, I have
> the same problem! That's why so many here killfile me.

It's not even really that. I just don't coddle emotional weaklings,
and don't
expect anyone to coddle me. If I do something in a crappy way, I
don't
want to be lied to by people who are trying to baby my feelings. That
sort of crap just fosters more and more mediocrity and ignorance.

My sister's feeling were not hurt. She is not an emotional weakling.
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> John Kuthe...

--Bryan