On 3/15/2012 2:34 AM, Ophelia wrote:
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> "dsi1" > wrote in message
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>> She's lucky to have a daughter that's willing take care of her to the
>> bitter end. I'm merely the cook and lend secondary support. My MIL was
>> not a good mother to her 7 step-kids so I'm not a big fan of hers.
>> It's hard to believe that this 76 lb., barely able to move, skeleton
>> made life so hard for my wife and her siblings. My MIL's luck will
>> hold out as long as nothing happens to my wife.
>
> In which case she is VERY lucky you are both taking care of her. I can
> see it must be very hard for you, but you have an angel for a wife!
>
>

It's incomprehensible to me. The care and devotion and patience my wife
has for her mother. My parents were great to me but my wife's family was
as dysfunctional as they come. Hers was not a happy home.

My mother-in-law's arrival from another country was an escape and exile
from a horror show of her own. Real vale of tears stuff involving the
worst things you can think of. She has a large scar from being slashed
in the face which is a permanent mark of that chapter of her life.

My wife's story, for me, begins when her biological mother drove off the
road in Montana and killed herself and a man she was with and another
couple. These 4 deaths resulted in 12 or so kids losing a mother or a
dad or both. My father-in-law was in the army and off somewhere so my
wife and her 6 siblings were left alone at home for a day or so until
the police came.

Anyway, bringing a physically and psychologically damaged wife from
Korea to this country for 6 kids in need of a mother was probably, in
retrospect, not a very good idea. The rest is history - very bad
history. The most unlikely thing about this is how it's all going to end
- patience, care, and devotion.