On 12/7/2012 3:29 PM, sf wrote:
>> >Becca and I did the same thing. Everybody had their own ideas on
>> >how/when/where we should get married. We couldn't please everyone and
>> >we did NOT want a big wedding, so we booked a wedding package at an
>> >all-inclusive resort in Jamaica and we only told close family members
>> >shortly before we left. The resort handled all the details (license,
>> >minister, cake, flowers, etc).
>> >
>> >It was beautiful.
>> >
> I know it was your first marriage, but you did it "later in life", it
> was Becca's second and you were both independent. I think of that
> situation as being different than if you two were still in your
> twenties and still trying to please your parents, even if you paid for
> your own wedding. I know my DD certainly tried to please us in spite
> of the fact that she paid for 75% of her very expensive wedding (the
> dress alone was $2,000).


It is a second (and last) marriage for both of us.

Yep, getting married in your 50's is a lot different than if you are in
your 20's. But weddings are for the people who are getting married....
not the families or friends. I put together a fair number of groups for
people who want to get married on a cruise ship. My first and only
advice to them about the wedding is to do it the way that feels best to
them. The others will follow along... or not. You can go crazy trying
to please everyone.... thus the transformation of a normally sane person
into "Bridezilla!".

We will be on a cruise next week to celebrate our anniversary. We
usually cruise with groups of people, but we try to get away at least
once a year by ourselves.

George L