On 2013-08-29 8:01 AM, jmcquown wrote:
> On care of them.
>>
> It wasn't years, although it felt like it. But yes, right after Dad's
> funeral he was walking around the house saying, "I'd like this, and
> this, and that..." Mom was in the next room! I said, "Mom isn't dead,
> you idiot!" They each got what furniture and other items from the house
> they wanted *and* a third of her money; that's what her will stipulated.
> Mom had an annuity that listed me as the beneficiary. Her lawyer told
> me I didn't have to split that money with them but I was trying to abide
> by her wishes. I wound up paying mega-bucks in taxes on that annuity;
> they got their share tax free.
>

Sometimes you just can't win Jill. My oldest brother was upset that my
father did not leave the house to him, He figured he should get it
because he was the eldest. The rest of us always assumed that he would
leave everything to my mother, or if she died first, to the four of us
equally. FWIW... he suffers from depression.

When my mother decided to sell the house she asked us to come and take
whatever we wanted of Dad's. It was bad timing for me because I was
really busy getting ready to go to Europe for three weeks. There were
only a couple things that I had been promised and I had her set them
aside for me until I got back.

I went down a month later and was there the same day as my youngest
brother. He phoned the oldest and told him to come over and get what we
wanted. Oldest is the only one who lived in the same city and was 10
minutes away. He called three more times. The guy never showed up. My
mother had said that she was counting on us to clear the house out which
meant taking the valuables and trips to the dump with the rest.

He never showed up to collect whatever he was interested in and he never
showed up to help us haul the rest of the stuff to the dump. You gotta
know that later on he never got his share.