"Gary" > wrote in message ...
> Julie Bove wrote:
>>
>> I only remember the annoyance
>> that I felt that he did not call me to say that he wasn't coming home for
>> dinner. But I was told by a counselor. Oh yes, a counselor! We did try
>> that route! That I was wrong for wanting to get the call like that and
>> that
>> it wasn't any of my business. That was just a guy thing, she said. Mm
>> hm.
>
> Julie. No valid counselor would ever say that to you. Common sense
> would tell you that not calling to say he won't be home for dinner is
> just plain rude.

Well, I can assure you that they did. I won't even bother getting into the
rest of what transpired there but it sure as heck wasn't pleasant.
>
> Since you are the only cook, you should plan meals that all would like
> and set a dinner time. If they don't get home on time, too bad...eat
> leftovers. If they aren't in the mood for what you cooked, too damn
> bad. Eat it or starve.

But the thing is... I *can't* set a dinner time and I am not going to post
my schedule here as that would be stupid. I realize that most people work
M-F and have weekends off. That is not us. Every week is different. It
wasn't always that way. It is now. And I don't cotton to the eat it or
starve thing. I wasn't raised that way and I wouldn't do that to anyone
else. Perhaps the rest of you who tell me to do this were raised this way
and think this is the only way? I don't know. Foreign concept to me and I
would never do that to anyone unless I had to. Such as if there was no
money for other food or no way to go out and get some. As in being snowed
in. Forcing someone to eat something they don't like? That to me is abuse.