On 7/3/2014 2:39 PM, Julie Bove wrote:
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> I don't quite get that either. In my case, I think the drop in self
> esteem was very brief. And a lot of it stemmed from my parents and
> other adults. They made a big deal about going into Jr. High and an even
> bigger one about going into High School. They said all sorts of things
> to me that made me fearful of going to school. Told me stuff about how
> the older kids would be very mean to me and stuff like that. Thankfully
> that didn't happen and in fact many of my friends were the older kids.
> Yes, sometimes older kids did mean and silly things but usually only to
> younger siblings or their friends.

High school was funny. I went to a reunion a while back and it was
gratifying to see the kids as adults. I told one girl that I always
thought she was pretty and popular and hung around the cool crowd. She
said it was an awful time for her and nobody liked her and she didn't
have any friends. Odd bodkins! I would have been her friend, you betcha!

One of my clients said that his kids remembered me in HS. They said that
I was one of the smart guys. That was a complete shock to me since I saw
myself as a complete slacker. Let's face it, kids have a pretty
distorted view of themselves.